Letter to Dear Ones!

In olden times letters were the only mode of communication among people. It is beautiful how message from one person reaches to another and how people used to write so much into those letters. Then gradually, telephone came up, then computers and internet, now social media and various other modes to communicate. In the advancement of technology, somewhere down the line the original ways to communicate has died off or has reduced to a great extent. I am an old school person. I really appreciate and like the way people meet in person, share so much together, write letters to each other or used to write. I feel liveliness in these things more than through the mode of technology.

However,  now people oftenly drop a message or post a picture stating that they miss each other or their feelings for each other. The content and quality of the content has become nothing more than a broadcast medium. 

Handwritten letters has a different experience. The one who write feels peaceful and joyous, and the essence one feels after reading the letter from the dear one is something which you don’t receive from the virtual mode of communication. The amount of effort and time it takes to write a letter is something worth of appreciation. 

Though old school yet the amount of effect a handwritten letter creates is much higher than any mode of communication.

So, writing letters to dear one is something which shouldn’t be discarded completely yet should be restored and relived.

Does Soul Connection leads to lasting relationships?

“I think she understands me in a way nobody ever had or has”, “I feel that the way we connect is nowhere to find”, and a lot of other statements are often said or felt by today’s youngsters. Is there a soul connection behind the same? The way two souls associate with each other forms a Soul Connection. Stronger the connection, larger are the chances of persistence of any Relationship.

Be it our parents, siblings, relatives, friends, significant other, every individual we meet in our lives understands us in a way no-one ever can. If that’s the scenario then why is it that we don’t gel up with everyone we meet? Or why don’t we share every life event insightfully with every individual? And why is it that even after a handful of those individuals, we tend to choose a single person from them or from outside and marry a single person to spend our entire life with?

To answer each and every question, let’s throw the light on what actually happens in the process. We, humans, have an inherent need to belong and that is the reason we make relationships. Taking a basic example of two friends, they become friends because of certain similarities between them and certain areas of interest which are common among them. These similarities and interests make them connect initially. Gradually, with the passage of time both have known each other properly and the friendship thereby strengthens and they become closest buddies.

In this example, we need to focus on the reason why a friendship becomes pristine and stronger. It is not just about a connection which has been built in the initial phases of a relationship yet it’s the commitment and investment of both  the partners which makes a friendship or any relationship grow further. The commitment comes with time, efforts, contentment and happiness. Two more constructs namely Acceptance, and Molding are higly crucial, meaning that once we gel up with someone and feel really happy and satisfied, we make a decision or commitment to strengthen the bond, then we have a natural acceptance towards other’s weaknesses, and we mold ourselves accordingly to fit in or we help each other to mold ourselves to fit in and make the relationship grow further mutually.

Coming to the point of marriage, if it is a love marriage, then between the partners, the level of commitment, investment, satisfaction acceptance, and molding is much higher than with other people.

So, In real sense, there is no soul connection. It is the commitment and investment of both the partners that make any relationship last.

 

 

From a Distance!

I took this picture today. The view is beautiful. It seems like the pigeon is posing for the click.

 It’s magnificent how a bird can radiate peace to the world. Simply by looking at the view gives an essence of sereneness and contentment. 

Trust!

Trust is a synonym for the word Faith. When you feel you can count on someone or something without any second thoughts, then what you have developed is trust.

You must have read or heard someone saying *It takes years to build trust but takes not even a second to destroy the same*. You must have met people who have trust issues or who don’t gel up easily with others in the first go or even in the long run. Have you ever wondered why is it so? To have a clarity on this let’s try to understand trust more insightfully.

Trust is like a rubberband. The more we stretch the rubberband, the farther the rubber goes which sharpens and magnifies its strength but if we lose the grip of the band accidentally, the entire strength of the rubberband gets reduced to zero and it becomes difficult to regain the amount of elasticity which was once achieved. Similarly, the more we build trust, the higher it grows which magnifies the level of trust but if that trust gets broken due to any accidental or intentional means then the level of trust decreases and it becomes strenuous to regain the amount of trust which had been achieved. One of the major reason for fluctuating trust is persistent, unstable and frequent disappointments which one may encounter in different phases of life. Repetition of a certain external behavior makes one defensive and difficult to rely on others thereby.  The people who break trust and are able to regain it in a small gap of time are the ones who are building trust and authenticity.

Nothing is perfect which applies on our actions as well. We are people who make mistakes. Those who realize are able to regain what is being lost and are further able to build stronger trust. Those who don’t realize, are not able to get back the lost essence of trust.

So, yes, Trust is indeed a small word with a sensitive essence and should be build with patience, introspection and persistent efforts.

 

 

 

Seed of Appreciation in Relationships!

Appreciation is a minute coin that can produce a stupendous effect in someone’s life. It simply means acknowledging, respecting and valuing someone or something done by that person. 

Nowadays most of us usually tend to become preoccupied in our lives to an extent that we often overlook or ignore the value of a person. 

The efforts put by someone seem to come to a halt or reduces drastically if they get unintentionally or intentionally neglected by the other. 

One’s appreciative words and/or actions reflect the amount of importance she/he holds towards somebody.  

Acknowledgement and appreciation of other’s strengths and efforts not just increase the optimism in other yet also enhance the quality of the relationship with that person, and that would, in turn motivate the other to share concerns or/and invest more willingly.

Be it our family members, friends, or significant other we may tend to mask appreciation. Appreciation which is authentic, from the heart, continuous and supportive is something that should be followed instead of a masked appreciation. The seed which is planted will only be fruitful if it receives adequate nourishment, else it will die off early.
So, Appreciation is a tiny brick that can build a home with small small steps, consistency and continuity.

Beyond!

There is something about nature which is highly magnetic and appealing. I took this photograph few days back when it was raining. The pouring of drops on the flower magnifies the beauty it holds.

It is just a matter of time sometimes.

Life often throws us in a noxious pool of situations which makes the journey challenging and sometimes hard to look to. Times when we simply want to shut ourselves from the social circle, when we doubt our capabilities, when we land up into negative self talk, criticism, self pity, aggressive outbursts, and the worst suicidal thought tendencies.
There aren’t many who seem to understand the real us, who show receptivity, who not just cling yet who let us cry and support unconditionally, who instead of doubting our potential look into our eyes and say “You are doing great , I am proud of you” and so on. During such circumstances, most of the people seems to go against us and we are often left with vicious interrogation.
All of us at some or the other point experience such circumstances. Times when the ambiguity is so high that the entire future seems to be a stonewall.
These are the times which breaks us to the worst and builds us to the most, which makes us more patient and humble.
The most important thing to remember during these times is that it’s perfectly fine not to have everything when you want, it’s amazing how much perseverance you possess and it’s completely alright to give up sometimes and take everything lightly, it’s great to simply enjoy your life and sometimes have no expectations from yourself. There is a time for everything. Whatever happens has a huge reason and everything that happens teaches us something. No matter what happens, one should never stop believing in oneself, should keep the hope and faith alive, should rehearse the optimism and perseverance by embracing the skills one imbibe, should have a vent out to release the anxiety, and most importantly one should challenge the situation she/he is currently in. If we are on the boat, and river is our challenge, then let US be the direction of where we want to sail the boat towards.
So, nothing is easy or difficult, sometimes it’s just a matter of time which makes us shiver. Stay patient and keep the perseverance alive.